Love, Communication, Trust… Which of the big three of happy relationships is more important?

What’s the true importance of communication? Can love actually hold by itself a happy relationship? And just how important is to trust the other person? No one can deny that a truly happy relationship takes a little bit of everything. Love, communications and trust, they need to coexist.

Or do they?

At first many people would agree with the Beatles when they sing “All you need is love”. But this idea doesn’t resist a second thought. Can you love without trust? Or even better, can such love last? And … read more

A couple of weeks ago I bought Bionic, the new album by Christina Aguilera, and I listened over and over again to one specially great hit song called Vanity, that closes the album. I loved Vanity’s futuristic sounds and I believe the music is great, but today I’d like to focus on the lyrics.

The thing is, when I first listened to Vanity, I wasn’t sure I had it all figured it out. Is she actually calling herself “bitch” all those times? What are the lyrics all about? References to fairy tales “mirror mirror, on the wall…”-, a despise … read more

We women are quick to use the cliched phrase there aren’t any good men left out there but its getting truer and truer by the day. How do you determine what a good man is in 2010? When was the last time we actively looked for that decent man instead of just conveniently scooping up which ever men come our way?

I’ve been told since childhood that men have great difficulty admitting when they are wrong. Learning to say “sorry” often and with apparent sincerity is, I have been told, a prerequisite to getting married. The model is that women complain and men are stubborn and apathetic. Many lover’s quarrels can, the thinking continues, be reduced to “woman has problem with man’s action, man disagrees, woman complains, sees it again and takes issue, fight ensues.” Tempers and emotions will escalate until one partner decides to step up, admit they were wrong, and make amends in a calm and compassionate … read more

Many years ago, my ex-husband’s grandmother explained me how she could not understand why her grand-son in his teenager years was so infatuated with that girl… she reckoned in New Caledonia a woman will put a few drops of her menstrual blood in a man’s drink to make him fall in love. Ewww, that’s disgusting!

I remembered that story as I was listening to the radio. They were talking about celebrities weird fan gifts and Enrique Iglesias said he received a used tampon. My friend and I just looked at each other and just wondered why on earth would you do … read more